Recognizing, Forgiveness and Letting Go
For those of you who have difficulty meditating, it is because you have not learned how to release at the time of meditation. Why can not we let go of the simple things like the past or the future? Why do we not care what someone has done and said to us today? The more you think about it, the more bodohlah become. As the old saying, "When someone calls you an idiot, the more often you remember, the more frequent they call you idiot!" If you immediately release it, you'll never think about it again. At most they just call you an idiot once. Already! Done! You are free!
Why do we imprison ourselves in our past? Why we still can not let go? Do you really want to be free? And admit it, forgive and release. Acknowledge, forgive and release anything that hurt you, whether it's something done or said by someone, or what has happened in your life. For example, someone in your family has died and you argue with yourself that they are not supposed to die.Or you have lost your job and you think non-stop that this is not supposed to happen. Or just because something is not working properly, then you are so obsessed that it is not fair. You can punish yourself for things you do for the rest of your life if you want, but no one is forcing you to do so. Instead you can confess, forgive and learn to forgive. Disposal is the process of learning. The release provides the freedom for us to facing the future with ease, and break the chain attachment to the past.
Recently I spoke with several people about the community of
Cambodian people in Perth that the Buddhist community, there are still many things I should do with this community. Like other traditional Buddhists, when they attack a problem, they will come and consult with the monks. This is what they have done for centuries. Monastery and the monks are the social centers, religious centers, and counseling centers for the community. Even when the men fight with their wife, they came to the monastery.
One time when I was a young monk in Thailand, a man came to the monastery and asked me, "Can I stay in the monastery for a few days?" I think he wanted to meditate, so I said, "Oh, you want to meditate yes "" Oh, no, "he replied," I want to stay in the monastery because I had just quarreled with my wife. "So he stayed in the monastery. Three or four days later he met me and said, "I feel better now, can I go home?" It is wise, he instead went to the bar and get drunk, he did not visit his friends and reveal to them the bad things he thinks about what his wife had done so to strengthen a sense of hurt and anger, but he stayed with a host of benevolent monk and peace, which will not comment anything about his wife.He pondered the things he had done in peace, in a supportive environment and eventually he felt better. Sometimes this is the function of the temple: a counseling center, shelter, a place where people let go of all its problems. Is not this better than remain attached to the past, especially when we are angry about something that has happened? When we zoom in anger, whether we can really see what is happening? Or we see it through the lens of anger that are misleading, finding fault with others, just notice the bad things he has done to us, without ever really seeing the full picture?
One thing I observe from the community of Cambodian people is that they all have gone through suffering during the Pol Pot era. I know of a Cambodian man whose wife was shot right in front of him by the Khmer Rouge, just for stealing a mango. His wife was so hungry that he plucked a mango from the tree. One of his Khmer Rouge cadres saw it and, without trial, he pulled his gun in front of her husband and shot dead his wife. When he was telling this to me, I noticed her face, her gestures, it's amazing, no anger, no hatred, not even a visible sadness. There is only a peaceful acceptance of what had happened. This is not supposed to happen, but in fact this is what happened.
By releasing the past, we can enjoy the present and free future.Why do we always carry around something that has passed?Attachment to the past is not a theory but an attitude. We can say, "Oh, I did not stick." Or we can say, "I do not cling, do not even attached to these ketidakmelekatan," who seemed very wise and very beautiful sound, but it was all rubbish. Did you know if you are attached, can not let go of the important things are causing you pain, then this will hinder your freedom. Clinging like an iron ball with a chain tied around your feet. No one is tied to you. You have the key to free yourself, but you do not use it. Why are we so limit ourselves and why we can not let go of all the affairs and concerns about the future? Are you worried about what will happen next, tomorrow, next week, or next year? Why are you doing this? How many times have you worrying about exams or tests, or visits to the doctor, or a visit to the dentist? You can only fear for you the pain and when you are preparing to visit the dentist, it turns out they had canceled the covenant and you do not have to go again!
Something will never happen in accordance with pengharapanmu.Is it not we learn that the future is so uncertain that there is no need to worry? We will never know what will happen next. When we let go of the past and the future, we would not have been in deep meditation track? Are not we really are learning how to be peaceful, free, and satisfied?
This is an indication of the meaning of enlightenment. This means we see that a lot of attachments based on sheer ignorance. We do not need this. As we develop more profound meditation, the more we are able to better let it go. The more you push, the happier and damailah ourselves. This is the reason why the Buddha called all the way in Buddhism as a gradual exercise. This is a path that guides a person, step by step, and at each step you will get an award. That is why this is a very happy way and the farther you go, the more happy and berhargalah award. Even in just the first step you have to get the award.
I still remember my very first meditation. I remember his office, at the University of Cambridge, in the Wordsworth Room, King Campus. I've never meditated before, so I just sat there five to ten minutes with some of my friends. Although only ten minutes, but I thought, "Oh, how wonderful", I still remember that feeling that something resonates within me, to tell you that this is the road that led me to an incredible place. I have discussed all kinds of philosophy over coffee and beer with my friends, but "discussions" are always ended with the debate and they never make me happier. Even the great professors at the university that you know very well not look happy. That is one reason why I did not continue my academic career. They are very brilliant in their field, but on the other they are as stupid as ordinary people. They also argue, worried and depressed, just like everyone else. And it really hit me.Why smart people at this famous university does not feel happy?What good is a smart if this does not give you happiness? What I mean is the true happiness, true contentment and true peace.
Satisfaction and Peace True
People who are full of contentment and true peace is the first I met Ajahn Chah, my teacher in Thailand. There was something in him! I see what he has and I told myself, 'I want that, I want that sense, it is peace. "People from all over the world come to visit him. Just because he was a monk does not mean that everyone feels respectful, dedicated and always praise him. Some people come in and argue with him, even trying to find fault, or even snap at him.I remember a story about the first time he visited England with Ajahn Sumedho. He had pindapata in Hampstead and when he is running, this happened twenty years ago, a young troublemaker who went up against Asia these funny costumes and pretending to punch his nose. Ajahn Chah did not know this person is only pretending. Then he tried to kick him but missed the mark. He just wanted to joke with small Asian monks who costumed funny. Ajahn Chah did not know when he will be beaten. He never hit the target, because he remains peaceful, quiet and never angry. Then, he said that Britain is a very good place and he wanted to send all his senior monk monks there to really test them. As for Ajahn Chah, he has to have peace of mind in his training.
Easy for us to say, "I have been enlightened", but when such things happen, you also run a mile. At that time the other monks in Hampstead is a walk in the afternoon when he passed a pub. At that time, he did not realize on that day there is a football game massive between England and Scotland. The match has ended and the supporters of Scotland was in the pub was in a drunken state. At that time, there is a TV drama series about a Kung Fu monk, who at the time was a kid nicknamed "cricket". Scottish football fans saw through the window of the pub and said, "Oh, he is a little cricket" and the monk was shocked. They are the people of Scotland are big and they were very drunk, so he fled and they chased all the way back to the monastery. "Cricket minor" is saving himself. He lost. But the type of disposal practices committed by Ajahn Chah in Hampstead is something that gave you a feeling that you are on the road to enlightenment.
A Gradual Way
The essence of Buddhism is a path of gradual, step by step and you will succeed. Some people say you should not meditate to get results. All of that nonsense! Meditate to get results. Meditate to be happy. Meditate to gain peace. Meditate to achieve enlightenment, little by little. But if you expect results so be patient. One of the problems faced by humans is when they set goals, they are not patient enough. That's why they are disappointed, depressed and frustrated. They do not spend enough time to train up to develop naturally toward enlightenment. It will take time, maybe even several times a life, so do not hurry. As you take each step, there is always something you can learn. Let go a little then you will get freedom and peace. Deliver more then you will feel the happiness.This is how I teach meditation, both in my temples as well as here. I encourage the meditator to try to reach the levels of this release, the level of happiness is called Jhana.
Jhana
Everyone wants to be happy and jhana is your way for to achieve happiness, I mean true happiness, a deep happiness. The only problem that arises is that this situation did not last long. Just a few hours, but they are nonetheless very interesting. They arise through the release, the release of real. Mainly through the release of desire, choice and control. It is a very interesting thing, if we practice meditation in depth and understand how it can happen.Through experiences like that you realize that the more you control, you will get addicted because of attachment, the less well the peace that you get. But the more you let go, the more you take off, the more you get away from that path, you will feel more happy.This is the teaching of something very deep, far deeper than that can you read in books or hear in a lecture and certainly more useful than just discussing it around the coffee table. You really have something. This directly leads to the core teachings, something called the mysticism. You were really experienced it myself.Precisely when you let go of "control", the "perpetrators" of this.Well, this is the main problem faced by humans. We can not stop screw. Often times we should let it, but we are not able to, we do not do it. We actually messed it up. Why the hell can not you just have fun and enjoy it, instead of continuing to do things without stopping?
It is very difficult to silence during meditation, but the more capable you are silent, the more prizes you get, you will feel more peaceful.When you let go at the time of meditation, let go of the desire, let go of control, when you stop talking to myself, you will get true silence in you. How many people get annoyed at the noise of running through their heads all the time? How many people who sometimes have trouble sleeping at night, when there was no noise from neighbors, but something much more noisy in between their ears. Talk, Talk, Talk, Anxiety, Anxiety, Anxiety, Thinking, Thinking, Thinking! This is the problem faced by humans, when they should think, they can not think clearly, and when they should stop thinking, they can not feel peace. When we learn how to meditate, we can feel more balanced, and we know how to remove. We know how to let go until the point where all thoughts disappear. Thinking this is just commentary comments, they are just images. The difference between thinking and reality just like the difference, say, reading a book on New York and visited New York. Which is more real? When you are there, you breathe the air there, you feel the atmosphere there, you feel the character, all these are things that you can not write the book. Truth is always associated with silence. Lie was always associated with words.
May All Beings Be Happy,Elin
11 years ago
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